Meditation

365 DAYS OF MEDITATION: WHAT I LEARNED

The thing about meditation is: You become more and more you.

David Lynch

When on vacation in Croatia a few weeks ago, I completed a full year of unbroken daily meditation practice. It felt like quite an achievement for me. 

Each morning right after waking up, I pull my meditation cushion up to my bed (when at home), set a timer (I use InsightTimer), and meditate for about 25-30 minutes, about half silent and half guided.  

This whole thing started when I was in Portugal last summer with a friend while I was going through the throes of deep heartache and other major stressors. I realized it was helping, so I decided to keep going, thinking I'd perhaps meditate for an entire month.

Well those 30 days turned into 3 months, which turned into 6 months, and you get the point. I never set out to meditate for a year, but it happened and it's changed my life. I don’t think I’m exaggerating when I say this. 

  • MAJOR ANXIETY REDUCTION: I’ve struggled with deep and chronic anxiety for most of my life. Though the tide has been shifting for many years with all of the personal work I’ve done, the changes finally feel like they’ve taken hold. I feel much more grounded and calm most of the time. This is huge for me, the biggest win, and it feels astounding.

  • BETTER COMMUNICATION: I feel the way I communicate has become much more simple, reliable, and forthright. My thoughts feel clearer, my intuition louder. Better communication has helped me in all facets of my life - from working with my patients, to teaching, to my personal life. 

  • LESS REACTIVITY: I feel much less reactive to my emotions. We are humans and that means feeling various and changing emotions is just a part of life. I still feel strong emotions often, but I can feel them more purely now, without getting all wound up in them. And  I can be with them until they pass, as all emotions do. Some say, emotion = “energy in motion.”

  • MORE CONFIDENCE: I feel more confident in who I am as a person, what I want in life, and how I offer my energy and time to others. I am learning boundaries much more clearly. I have gotten further along on the path of breaking my perfectionist tendencies, a trauma-based pattern that holds me back. And, I am accepting many pieces of me that I had once rejected. I think of this as shadow work and core self-acceptance.

  • INCREASED WHOLENESS and CONNECTION: I feel more whole, connected, and loving. I feel a greater sense of communion with myself and my communities, closer to my loved ones, and more perceptive of my surroundings.

  • MORE JOY: I feel lighter, more joyful, and more buoyant much more of the time. Makes life a lot more fun, let me tell you!

  • GRATITUDE PREVAILS: There’s a lot more gratitude in my life too. This is also a habit I’ve ben practicing alongside daily meditation.

  • HABIT CHAIN: This habit has led me to start other habits that have stuck, like working out more consistently, doing breath practices throughout the day, prepping food at home on Sunday for the week, and more. 

I talk about mediation frequently because I believe mind-body medicine practices - all types of tools that allow our nervous systems to function better, that build resilience, compassion and wisdom, and that allow for healthier choices - are foundational for optimal whole health, of the mind, body, and spirit.

Good health starts with good habits.

What one, small good habit can you start with today?

( and p.s., if you’re wondering if I’m stopping now, the answer is definitely not!)


THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 19: YES TO OUR HANDS

A reflection on hands. 

(& how grateful we ought to be.)

 

They tap.

They type.

They sign.

They scroll.

They freeze.

They warm.

They wave.

They flow.

 

They scratch.

They cut.

They rub.

They punch.

They clap.

They burn.

They pinch.

They snap.

They gesture.

They slap.

 

They touch.

They smudge.

They caress.

They print.

They grasp.

They grab.

 

They enter.

They push.

They wriggle.

They comb.

They poke.

They pick.

 

They bend.

They curve.

They vibrate.

They sleep.

They lock.

They hurt.

 

They swipe.

They read.

They write.

They draw.

They wear.

They feed.

 

They offer.

They feel.

They hold.

and

They heal.

🙌🏽 💛

 

The Year of Yes is a weekly photo-and-word installment by Dr. Shah written with the purpose of evoking hope, resilience, and a gentle movement toward healthy change in all of us.

THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 8: YES TO MINDFUL SHOWERING.

Photo credit: Markus Spiske

Photo credit: Markus Spiske

You may be rolling your eyes right now. Like, what? Try to stay with me for a few minutes.

There’s usually only one time of day when you’re free of everything but yourself - no stuff, kids, pets, devices, other people - and that’s in the shower. What if you could take that precious alone time and make it even more special by adding a little meditation into your day?

I’ve been practicing mindful showering for a few weeks now and it’s become one of my favorite ways to practice mindfulness. Why? Because it’s a routine task during which we’re often lost in thought and don’t have much else to distract us.

Step-by-step instructions:

  1. Start with your “beginner’s mind” by just noticing what’s going on. Observe your actions - the removal of your clothing, pulling back on the curtain or shower door, turning on the water, finding the correct temperature. Take note of the water itself - its temperature, sound, wetness. Isn’t it quite the miracle that warm, clean water comes out of your faucet /shower head whenever you want it?

  2. Once in the shower, open your awareness to the feeling of the warm water on your body. Notice the pressure of the water flow, how does it feel? Hold the soap in your hands, notice how slick it gets, how it smells, how it feels on your skin. Feel the shampoo and how it foams up, feel the pressure of your fingers on your scalp.

  3. Every time your mind wanders off - and it will many times, perhaps to your to-do list, or the time (I’m in a rush!), or something that happened yesterday, or whatever else - bring it gently back to the present, to the physical sensations of the warm water on your body and the weight of your feet on the tub floor. Is there any place you can be but right here, right now?

  4. As you towel off, feel the towel's texture, how it soaks up the water, and how it gently scrubs your skin.

  5. Finally, observe the difference paying attention makes on this everyday experience you just had.

The practice of mindful showering (or eating, or brushing your teeth, or walking...) is not about thinking, but rather just about awareness of what's going on. On the outset, the practice may seem silly, even boring. However, the more you practice everyday activity mindfulness, the more your mind will start to notice the textures of life, the emotions that come up in your body, and the fact that your thoughts are just thoughts, and not reality. If you'd like to learn more, here is a good article about mindfulness practice for beginners

By practicing presence and mindful awareness in the shower, you can get your daily meditation dose in, and get your whole self clean - your body AND your mind. Pretty wonderful, no? ♡

THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 6: YES TO DIGITAL DETOXES, PART I

YofYep6 -Digital Detoxes.jpeg

This past weekend, I decided to go on a “digital detox.” But as many of us often do in life, I decided to go forth with this intention without much planning. So, it’s not surprising that I ran up against a lot of interesting hurdles.

For one, what does it really mean to digitally detox? In its purest form, it means going 100% device-free – completely switching off all smartphones, tablets, laptops, and computers for a specific length of time. For others, it could mean allowing for phone calls and text messages from family and friends, but staying off devices most of the time, the internet, social media and the like. 

I had a difficult time going fully device-free. I realized the book that I’m trying to finish (and finally had time to read!) is on an app on my iPad. I also always talk to my parents and brother on the weekend, and I didn’t warn them that I’d be unavailable (lest they thought I fell of the face of the Earth). A few friends also wanted to meet up for dinner, I hadn’t planned on what I’d do about connecting with them. Finally, I didn’t set up an email auto-reply for a few pending time-sensitive work issues. 

That being said, I intentionally stayed off my devices and the internet for a good percentage of the weekend. I was able to notice when I had an impulse to grab my phone to check on something - it was most certainly a practice in mindfulness. My time felt more spacious, and yet more deliberate.

I spent hours chilling with my honey, cooking, taking photos (with my digital SLR, doh!), having good conversation + laughing, dreaming about surfing this summer, and just being quiet. I also had the bandwidth to work on a few projects that have been awaiting my attention (read: have been procrastinating on), which was amazing. And, in the end, my head did feel clearer, rested, and recharged.

I am going to try for a true digital detox soon, this time with the necessary pre-planning. I am hoping to make it at least 24 hours, but hopefully for more, perhaps 48 or 72 hours. I'd also like to practice the semi-digital detox I did this weekend, mindfulness of devices if you will, more often, which requires less planning. If you’d like to learn more, read this great article about digital detoxes and some of the neuroscience behind it, or this interesting piece from the New York Times. 

So, all in all, I only dipped my toe in the digital detox pond this weekend, but next time I'm going to jump into the lake. To be continued... 

Hope you have a great week! 💚

THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 2: SAYING YES TO SOULFUL BEAUTY

Post-work out, no makeup selfie. Many thanks to Grass Roots Juicery in Williamsburg for the always-delectable plant-based bites and juices.

Post-work out, no makeup selfie. Many thanks to Grass Roots Juicery in Williamsburg for the always-delectable plant-based bites and juices.

Our minds are quite literally bombarded daily by ads promising all sorts of quick fixes. Scientists estimate that the average U.S. adult sees as many as 4,000 advertisements a day! If only you eat this / use this / do this / wear this, you’ll be heathy, beautiful, thin, model-esque, cool, perfect.

True beauty and health really does emerge from the inside, out - when your mind is on the peace path and compassion is your jam, you legitimately glow. Your kindness and gorgeous human energy reverberate right out of you. Over time, your skin, face, body actually change because the compassion reflects inside of you as much as it does to all others. Your eyes shine, your “flaws” soften, your sharp edges become smoother. It really is amazing.

Furthermore, science shows that things like high stress, anger, anxiety, and social isolation put you at higher risk for inflammatory conditions such as heart attacks. Compassion and meditation practices REALLY can help.

So the next time you have that urge to get that new thing that promises to make you amazing - pause for a moment, take a deep abdominal breath and then a few more. Ask yourself if this product really is going to be the magic quick fix answer it's promising to be. Ask yourself what your motivation is behind wanting it. Then say some loving words to yourself. And, finally, say a few more loving words to everyone else in this world. Watch what starts to happen!