Mindfulness

365 DAYS OF MEDITATION: WHAT I LEARNED

The thing about meditation is: You become more and more you.

David Lynch

When on vacation in Croatia a few weeks ago, I completed a full year of unbroken daily meditation practice. It felt like quite an achievement for me. 

Each morning right after waking up, I pull my meditation cushion up to my bed (when at home), set a timer (I use InsightTimer), and meditate for about 25-30 minutes, about half silent and half guided.  

This whole thing started when I was in Portugal last summer with a friend while I was going through the throes of deep heartache and other major stressors. I realized it was helping, so I decided to keep going, thinking I'd perhaps meditate for an entire month.

Well those 30 days turned into 3 months, which turned into 6 months, and you get the point. I never set out to meditate for a year, but it happened and it's changed my life. I don’t think I’m exaggerating when I say this. 

  • MAJOR ANXIETY REDUCTION: I’ve struggled with deep and chronic anxiety for most of my life. Though the tide has been shifting for many years with all of the personal work I’ve done, the changes finally feel like they’ve taken hold. I feel much more grounded and calm most of the time. This is huge for me, the biggest win, and it feels astounding.

  • BETTER COMMUNICATION: I feel the way I communicate has become much more simple, reliable, and forthright. My thoughts feel clearer, my intuition louder. Better communication has helped me in all facets of my life - from working with my patients, to teaching, to my personal life. 

  • LESS REACTIVITY: I feel much less reactive to my emotions. We are humans and that means feeling various and changing emotions is just a part of life. I still feel strong emotions often, but I can feel them more purely now, without getting all wound up in them. And  I can be with them until they pass, as all emotions do. Some say, emotion = “energy in motion.”

  • MORE CONFIDENCE: I feel more confident in who I am as a person, what I want in life, and how I offer my energy and time to others. I am learning boundaries much more clearly. I have gotten further along on the path of breaking my perfectionist tendencies, a trauma-based pattern that holds me back. And, I am accepting many pieces of me that I had once rejected. I think of this as shadow work and core self-acceptance.

  • INCREASED WHOLENESS and CONNECTION: I feel more whole, connected, and loving. I feel a greater sense of communion with myself and my communities, closer to my loved ones, and more perceptive of my surroundings.

  • MORE JOY: I feel lighter, more joyful, and more buoyant much more of the time. Makes life a lot more fun, let me tell you!

  • GRATITUDE PREVAILS: There’s a lot more gratitude in my life too. This is also a habit I’ve ben practicing alongside daily meditation.

  • HABIT CHAIN: This habit has led me to start other habits that have stuck, like working out more consistently, doing breath practices throughout the day, prepping food at home on Sunday for the week, and more. 

I talk about mediation frequently because I believe mind-body medicine practices - all types of tools that allow our nervous systems to function better, that build resilience, compassion and wisdom, and that allow for healthier choices - are foundational for optimal whole health, of the mind, body, and spirit.

Good health starts with good habits.

What one, small good habit can you start with today?

( and p.s., if you’re wondering if I’m stopping now, the answer is definitely not!)


LET’S TALK ABOUT GRATITUDE

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As I shared recently shared in my Instagram stories this past week, I’ve been keeping a gratitude journal for 21 days (a challenge to myself). The 21 days are up and I’ll be continuing this nightly ritual. 

Why? 

  1. I knew intellectually that opening my mind to seeing the abundance in my life would help to lessen the “scarcity mindset,” which I am certain many of us possess. However, actually regularly doing this practice myself, I now know a true shift in my perspective is occurring. There’s a softening that I feel - in my mind, in my body, and in my spirit.

    2. It’s made me a happier person. Yes - not kidding - 21 days and I’m seeing things with less bitterness, and fear, and concern. This is NOT to say what’s happening right now on the planet (#climatecrisis) and the injustices and atrocities occurring in our country aren’t on the forefront of my mind. I can both be happy - my “spirit well” can be full so to speak - and fiercely work on what matters. I think it’s actually making me fiercer and have more clarity to act.

    3. It’s bred a whole new practice of following and logging my “generosities” each day. I’m tipping more robustly, giving money to the strangers who seem to need it, and overall finding ways to give more generously.

Do note this is not a bunch of fluff either. Science has shown gratitude rewires your brain in a positive way through neuroplasticity. For example, research has shown gratitude stimulates the hypothalamus (a key part of the brain that regulates stress) and the ventral tegmental area (part of our “reward circuitry”). It also can help to rebalance your limbic system. 

What are some other ways to cultivate gratitude other than keeping a gratitude journal? Write (and send if you can!) a thank you note; count your blessings; mentally thank someone who did something nice for you; meditate.

Tell me, how do you practice gratitude? And generosity? How do you feel it affects you as a human and on a larger scale? Would absolutely love to hear your thoughts!! 💚

YOU CAME OUT OF THIS WORLD

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ALAN WATTS ONCE SAID:

“You didn't come into this world. You came out of it, like a wave from the ocean. You are not a stranger here.”

Since moving homes and going away to Hawai’i, and also in part thanks to the brilliant reminder from Jenny Odell’s book How to Do Nothing, I’ve been rekindling my practice of intentionally observing all things natural surrounding me. I haven’t had a working TV in months (since our second flood in July) and not having one helps with this practice (forced digital detox! Ha!). Though my head is packed with podcasts, there’s something truly freeing about not filling my mind with visual narratives and clutter in the evenings.

I feel like I have made more time to observe the birds and bees and clouds and trees outside my home office, while waking my dog, while re-potting plants, while commuting. I even spotted a couple Northern flickers the other day (here is a little more on attracting them to your yard if you’re interested)! All of this in a very urban part of Brooklyn!

What do you see when you start really looking? How do you feel when you remember you’re OF this Earth rather than just on it?

Hope you have a wonderful weekend! 💚

First 3 pics from the Big Island in Hawai’i - one of the most magical places I’ve ever had the opportunity of visiting. (That gorgeous (completely unfiltered) beach is a 49,000 year old volcanic tuft ring) 🌈

TEACHING THE NEUROSCIENCE OF MEDITATION!

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What a joy it’s been to start teaching the neuroscience of meditation for Nalanda Institute’s Meditation Teacher Training at Pure Yoga West. My two other co-instructors Megan Mook and Scott Tusa are truly AMAZING meditation teachers! Looking forward to an awesome next 10 weeks! More to come soon! ♡

THE YEAR OF YES: MUSINGS - INTENDED ACTION

On this AUTUMNAL EQUINOX - I looked in the mirror and noticed a furrowed brow. On this day when day/night, light/dark are in relative balance, I have been pondering the deep IMBALANCES of our current state of affairs in the U.S. & our planet as a whole.

My meditation & contemplative practice keep reminding me that intention is the seed of our actions. When we begin noticing our presence (read: how we are showing up) in the present moment, we then have choice - we can DECIDE how to act RATHER THAN REACTING to the external circumstance at hand.

In this way, what we think can lead to chosen, intended action. Each action, large or small, is powerful. The ripples created by each one of us can change the sea. May I ask, how are you showing up in your own life in this very moment? 

The Year of Yes is a weekly photo-and-word installment by Dr. Shah written with the purpose of evoking hope, resilience, and a gentle movement toward healthy change in all of us.

THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 23: YES TO GOING SLOW

awesome street art in Williamsburg by Mike Makatron

awesome street art in Williamsburg by Mike Makatron

It’s been about a month since my last post. It’s because I’ve been purposely living life more SLOWLY. Summer is a great time to slow down - the weather is hot and humid, the days are long, and co-workers are away on vacation making getting things done take more time. But by slow, I mean easy, relaxed, and leisurely - not languid, sluggish or heavy.

How does one slow down? 

  • DO LESS. Pare down the to-do list to the ESSENTIAL + URGENT items. Leave the others. Disconnect from the e-devices for several hours a day. I loved the New York Times article on JOMO (the JOY of missing out!)

  • BE PRESENT. Feel the sun on your skin. Notice the gorgeous summer blossoms and foliage around you. Taste the fresh produce that’s bountiful right now.

  • LISTEN. Focus on listening intently to the person who is talking or the sounds that surround you. Don’t interrupt and don’t give your two cents. Just listen. Hear the birds' predawn chirping. Enjoy the sounds of the trees rustling in the wind. Notice the sounds of the summer rainstorms. 

  • WALK SLOWER. DRIVE SLOWER. MOVE SLOWER. Yes, you need to get it done. What is five extra minutes? Really, ask yourself if getting somewhere faster to save a few minutes is worth the stress. Do a walking meditation. Wander. Meander. Amble. 

  • DAYDREAM. Research continues to emerge showing us that daydreaming is an amazing (ahem, essential) tool to cultivate creativity and new ideas. 

  • PLAY. In the garden. At the park. Board games. While swimming. And laugh.

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” 
― Annie Dillard, The Writing Life

 

How do you slow down?  🐌

Sending positive thoughts and energy to you to make time for some dreamy, quiet hours. You most certainly deserve it.

 

The Year of Yes is a weekly photo-and-word installment by Dr. Shah written with the purpose of evoking hope, resilience, and a gentle movement toward healthy change in all of us.

THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 11: YES TO BOKETTO

Me, White Sands National Monument, New Mexico(All photos taken with my Canon EOS 7D Mark II)

Me, White Sands National Monument, New Mexico

(All photos taken with my Canon EOS 7D Mark II)

Boketto is a Japanese noun that means: “blank stare” or “gazing vacantly into the distance without really thinking about anything specific.”

Fossilized reef mountains, Guadalupe Mountains National Park, West Texas

Fossilized reef mountains, Guadalupe Mountains National Park, West Texas

Last week, I reconnected with this beautiful world in which we live. I had the great fortune to take a road trip through two national parks - Big Bend and Guadalupe Mountains National Park, and one national monument - White Sands. I gazed vacantly at a lot of splendid natural things for long periods of time. My week-long digital detox helped immensely to allow the sun-soaked arid rawness of the Southwestern desert and mountains seep into my bones. I am learning that periods of downtime like this reawaken the bedrock of our humanness.

Bendy road, Big Bend

Bendy road, Big Bend

Cloud-gazing. ✓

Star-bathing. ✓

Otherworldly landscapes. ✓

Respite. ✓

Roadrunner buddy, Big Bend National Park

Roadrunner buddy, Big Bend National Park

What I learned this week:

voyaging + digital detox = vacation

digital detox + time in nature = aliveness and awe

time in nature + stillness = reflection

stillness + sleep = rest

sleep + seeing = dreaming

seeing + looking = perception

looking + gazing = boketto

boketto + clouds/stars/landscapes = quiet mind.

Prickly pear, Big Bend National Park

Prickly pear, Big Bend National Park

I am utterly grateful that the National Park Service exists. There are 58 national parks in America. I prefer to visit the overlooked ones, which tend to be less populated oases, overflowing with majestic beauty rather than people. But, really, any will do. Try one out! And remember, we can keep them protected with our votes.

Marfa, Texas

Marfa, Texas

Finally, Stephen Hawking once said: “Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious. And however difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. It matters that you don't just give up.”

Yes, Dr. Hawking, yes! May you R. I. P. ♡

The Year of Yes is a weekly photo-and-word installment by Dr. Shah written with the purpose of evoking hope, resilience, and a gentle movement toward healthy change in all of us.

THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 9: YES TO FEELING PRICKLY.

The prickly seed pod pictured here surrounds a growing, glossy chestnut. The spiny covering that protects the nut while immature, called a burr, opens wide when the seed is ripe (Paillet 2005). This beautiful creation of mother nature is a good meta…

The prickly seed pod pictured here surrounds a growing, glossy chestnut. The spiny covering that protects the nut while immature, called a burr, opens wide when the seed is ripe (Paillet 2005). This beautiful creation of mother nature is a good metaphor for our growth experiences in life.

It’s just so darn easy to get stuck into routine, to let inertia overtake you. Many folks avoid stepping out of their comfort zones - like meeting a relationship trouble head on, traveling to a new place, or quitting a job for a more stimulating but challenging opportunity - because it can feel terribly frightening, possibly paralyzing. As we begin to step out into a wild unknown, we can feel alone, lost, uncomfortable, complicated, annoyed … prickly.

So why bother ever trying something new? It is vital to put ourselves in the discomfort of uncertainty and take risks in life so that we grow as humans, exploring our true potential. Being on this path of uncomfortable awakening can bear amazing outcomes, like a prickly chestnut seed pod, opening up to reveal a delicious, smooth, shiny, nutritious, beautiful fruit.

How, then, do we say YES to the unpleasant feelings that will inevitably emerge on the road of new experiences? How do we allow these feelings to show up without resisting them, perceiving them fully, and then letting them pass without getting bogged down?

I’ve been learning a great meditation tool from masters such as Tara Brach and Jeff Warren that anyone can use in these rough moments. It can help you to work with the intense or difficult feelings you’re encountering, facing them head on, allowing you to work through them. In fact, this tool works well in pleasant, calm moments too, though we're less apt to need help experiencing "the good stuff."

The tool is called RAIN, an acronym that stands for:

  • R – Recognize what is happening

  • A – Accept / allow life to be just as it is

  • I – Investigate inner experience with kindness

  • N – Non-Identification.

Here's a 10-minute free meditation exercise by Tara Brach to learn how to use it.

This mindfulness tool takes a bit of effort to remember and have ready when you need it, but it can be deeply helpful when you’re stuck in a prickly place. A little practice goes a long way.

Check out these great articles to further explore and learn more about this great tool: Tara Brach's websiteMindful Magazine article by Tara Brach, article by Susie HarringtonJeff Warren for the 10% Happier app

Now let's crack open and let the beauty emerge! ♡

THE YEAR OF YES, EP. 8: YES TO MINDFUL SHOWERING.

Photo credit: Markus Spiske

Photo credit: Markus Spiske

You may be rolling your eyes right now. Like, what? Try to stay with me for a few minutes.

There’s usually only one time of day when you’re free of everything but yourself - no stuff, kids, pets, devices, other people - and that’s in the shower. What if you could take that precious alone time and make it even more special by adding a little meditation into your day?

I’ve been practicing mindful showering for a few weeks now and it’s become one of my favorite ways to practice mindfulness. Why? Because it’s a routine task during which we’re often lost in thought and don’t have much else to distract us.

Step-by-step instructions:

  1. Start with your “beginner’s mind” by just noticing what’s going on. Observe your actions - the removal of your clothing, pulling back on the curtain or shower door, turning on the water, finding the correct temperature. Take note of the water itself - its temperature, sound, wetness. Isn’t it quite the miracle that warm, clean water comes out of your faucet /shower head whenever you want it?

  2. Once in the shower, open your awareness to the feeling of the warm water on your body. Notice the pressure of the water flow, how does it feel? Hold the soap in your hands, notice how slick it gets, how it smells, how it feels on your skin. Feel the shampoo and how it foams up, feel the pressure of your fingers on your scalp.

  3. Every time your mind wanders off - and it will many times, perhaps to your to-do list, or the time (I’m in a rush!), or something that happened yesterday, or whatever else - bring it gently back to the present, to the physical sensations of the warm water on your body and the weight of your feet on the tub floor. Is there any place you can be but right here, right now?

  4. As you towel off, feel the towel's texture, how it soaks up the water, and how it gently scrubs your skin.

  5. Finally, observe the difference paying attention makes on this everyday experience you just had.

The practice of mindful showering (or eating, or brushing your teeth, or walking...) is not about thinking, but rather just about awareness of what's going on. On the outset, the practice may seem silly, even boring. However, the more you practice everyday activity mindfulness, the more your mind will start to notice the textures of life, the emotions that come up in your body, and the fact that your thoughts are just thoughts, and not reality. If you'd like to learn more, here is a good article about mindfulness practice for beginners

By practicing presence and mindful awareness in the shower, you can get your daily meditation dose in, and get your whole self clean - your body AND your mind. Pretty wonderful, no? ♡